What is marriage therapy?
Marriage counseling, also referred to as couples therapy, is a form of psychotherapy. Marriage counseling helps couples from all generations and stages acknowledge and work through distress to improve their relationships. Through marriage counseling, you can process your relationship and make educated decisions on how to rebuild your marriage or how to most effectively end a unhealthy relationship.
Marriage counseling is a professional service provided to the community by licensed therapists known as marriage and family therapists (In the state of Hawaii marriage therapists who are pursuing license in the state will be referred to as marriage and family therapist interns. These therapists have graduate or postgraduate degrees. Many therapist are part of a national association and become credentialed by the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).
Marriage counseling is usually short term, but the length of time is often determined by the level of distress in the relationship. Marriage counseling is most effective with both partners in the relationship present. In some cases where one partner refuses to be a part of the therapy process, therapist's may agree to do individual work. The specific treatment plan is often unique and dependent on the couples individual needs.
Seven reasons to seek Marriage counseling
Communication has become negative.
When one or both partners consider having an affair, or one partner has had an affair.
When the couple seems to be “just occupying the same space.”
When the partners do not know how to resolve their differences.
When one partner begins to act out on negative feelings.
When the only resolution appears to be separation.
When a couple is staying together for the sake of the children.
Is it possible for us to be in Love again?
New Research is showing that love is no longer a poetic mystery or a magical potion that is drunk today and lost tomorrow. Breaking research has reveled that there is a link between attachment bonds, love, and science. For years marriage therapists wouldn't touch the topic of love with a ten foot pole and couples could only get help with improving communication. Thanks to science based brain research combined with couples therapy research we are finally understanding what this means. Today Marriage Therapists all over the world are able to help couples fall back in love and stay in love years after couples therapy has ended.
Johnson, Sue (2004. 2nd Ed). The Practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Brunner/Routledge.